It's a God Idea
Most people don't understand that sex was God's idea. He's the one that thought it up. He didn't didn't have to make if fun, but he did. It was God's idea.
Because God was the one that designed sex it is important to know that He has a plan for our sexuality.
Sexual desires are normal. Desires force choices. Wise choices will lead to life. Poor choices lead to pain.
Why talk about sex?
Proverbs 16: 25 "There is a way that looks right to a man, but in the end is the way of death" (NLT)
When the consequences of our decisions are never talked about we often think the choices that we are making are right.
Not thinking about the messages we hear about sex or examine the consequences of those messages lead us to think not only acting on our desire is right, but that they won't cause any harm.
We have to acknowledge that the messages we receive from the world about sex and relationships are not true. Although they make for great story lines, the media glamorizes the romantic elements of love and sex without touching the issues of commitment and intimacy.
God’s designs for our relationships are perfect! By following God’s plan we spare ourselves and our spouses a lot of pain and disappointment. Plus I found that God’s Word provided me a lot of practical insight into making my relationships work since He was the one who created us as man and woman.
Each person needs to discover all the facts and make decisions about their plan of action. Relationships and sex are not something that you can remain undecided on as no decision is a slow progression to the wrong decision. Discover God’s plan for you and make a commitment to live it out in all areas of your relationships.
Without Regard to the Consequences
Proverb 30: 20 "this is the way of an adulterous woman, she eats and wipes her mouth and says, I've done nothing wrong."
Our society has told us do whatever feels good and to not feel regret for bad decisions.
If it feels good… whatever makes you happy…These are messages that don't consider the future or God's plans for your life.
Hope-in the Midst of Pain
In light of the reality of Consequences it is also important to know the reality of Forgiveness and God’s Healing. Just as quickly as we make choices that lead to pain we can make a choice that leads to life! We can make a choice to get back to God’s plan we can find healing and comfort for our hurt and we can make new decisions with our purity and relationship priorities. But this too takes a choice, but one I believe is so rewarding!
The Wrong Question
How far is to far?
What this question is really asking is how close can i get to sin without really sinning. Or how bad can I be without really being bad. It doesn't consider your purity, your holiness, or the other person. A question like this asks, what can I get or do without getting in big trouble.
John 10:10 " I have come that you may have life and have it to the fullest"
This is a trick questions because it shows a complete lack if understanding about relationship with Jesus. Christianity is not about rules, it's about life. If we live life just trying to figure out what rules I need for follow or how close can I get to sin without sinning we will inevitably fall and fail.
It's like saying to your best friend, "how horrible can I treat you and you would still be my friend? How mean and rude can I be to you and you would still like me? What awful things can I do to you; can I gossip about you, steal your girlfriend, treat you like garbage? I want to know what is the line that I can treat you terribly, but you'll still be my friend.
Chances are that would be a pretty pathetic relationship, if one at all. The same is true when we ask God, "how far is too far?" It's like saying God how much can I take advantage our your mercy and grace before I use it all up?
The Better Question is- How can I honor God with my physical relationships.
According to the world, what seems “right” about the values of dating and sex?
Does the world often talk about the consequences of the decisions we make regarding dating and sex? (Aside form STDs and pregnancy)
What’s the common theme from all the Bible passages about the decisions we make involving dating and sex?
Do you think it’s true that the messages sent by the world regarding sex are false? Why or why not?
Do you think we live in a society that rarely thinks about the consequences of their choices? Have you experienced any consequences of making decisions based on the world’s way? Are you open to sharing?
Do you think God’s design is best? If so, what steps can you take to follow it?